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#71
General / Re: just post
Last post by rory - May 05, 2019, 09:10:36 PM
Super cool Joe! I also bought a 100 year old house in a great location to work on. It's been wonderful, though can also feel terrifying. I hope it is working out well for you, that is extremely exciting.
#72
General / happy Jawbreaker day!
Last post by jer - May 04, 2019, 10:38:53 AM
#73
General / Re: just post
Last post by jer - April 24, 2019, 03:29:22 PM
congrats!
#74
General / Re: just post
Last post by Joe - April 24, 2019, 01:58:37 PM
Closed on a house about two weeks ago.  It's literally 100 years old, and a bit of a fixer upper, but it is in a great location for walking and biking to everything.  I hope to fix it up and host some shows there in the future... we'll see. I know a house isn't for everyone, but I feel like I've been running to keep up with life, and this feels like I can dig in and not wonder where I'm going to live every year, if that makes sense.
#75
General / Re: well...
Last post by Joe - April 24, 2019, 01:51:17 PM
Way to go, Jer.
#76
General / Re: well...
Last post by jer - April 23, 2019, 07:52:00 PM
oh fuck, i marked this topic as an "announcement" which may mean it just emailed all registered users.

i'm sorry for spamming you all if that is the case...

and i'm sorry to the rest of you for ruining our would-be secret society
#77
General / well...
Last post by jer - April 23, 2019, 07:48:51 PM
now that the only people left around here are the die-hards.... how do we start a secret society that acts as an underground shadow government....  and/or cult?
#78
General / Re: 2006
Last post by jer - March 26, 2019, 08:13:17 PM
He's on Facebook.
#79
General / Re: 2006
Last post by lindsey - March 26, 2019, 07:39:16 PM
i miss ian
#80
General / Re: Hot Water Music 25th Anniv...
Last post by Joe - March 25, 2019, 04:48:37 PM
It's good that you are seeking things that make you smile.  I think I know the feeling, and I think it is very common in creative people.

There was a five year period in my mid 30s that feels like a lost time.  I was more focused on my job and money, than I was my health and happiness.  I was always playing music, I just felt ashamed of my love for it, and put myself down with thoughts that it was for kids, and that I should grow up.  One day I was ranting about it on my way to a music session, and my friend said "if you are still doing this at your age, you are a fucking lifer."  I don't know why, but hearing it changed everything for me.  I became aware that I was fighting myself and what brought me happiness.  That I didn't want to die feeling that way. It's like I had to learn to give myself permission to pursue happiness.

I'm in my 40s, now. I play music twice a week with two different groups.  I am playing and hosting two touring groups in April who are also middle aged. I was a show last night with a bunch of other middle aged folks, a handful of them brought their kids.  I have been taking drum lessons for a year, and I love how much it has added to my happiness.  By giving myself permission I have stumbled into a community that values my participation, and the community keeps growing. 

Shit, Daun and Chris from The Door-Keys(lesser known PIX band) are now in a band called The Evening Standards and they fucking blew my face off maybe a month ago. Chills through my whole body.  They are better than ever.  And that youthful punk rock passion still courses through them.   Let it.  These communities want you.