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Totally where my skill tapers off, but if I'm cooking for myself, that leaves me with no room for complaints.

The finite time away thing is definitely a plus, but the program goes for two years, almost as long as our relationship now. It seems simultaneously quick and also like a serious length of time.

I've definitely got a lot to consider, my brain is just not there yet. It doesn't seem real.

I love sauteing some mushrooms, it used to be the only thing I knew how to make. I really like any kind of quick cook veggie thing. I'm not a very good or varied cook, though.

So, I've been in a really good and stable relationship for two and a half years. My partner and I are in the healthiest relationship either of us has ever been in, we live together and spend a lot of time together. She's super smart, and was accepted into a graduate studies program on the other side of the state (bit over two hours away), which she's definitely going to do, no question. I'm really happy for her and proud of her, and would never do anything to jeopardize her ability to do what she wants to do academically. The thing is, there's just absolutely no way I'm moving to that side of the state. I have a job I really like, in a city I love. I have friends, bands, goals and obligations, all of which require me living here - especially since I do not drive. Not driving is also making that bit over two hours seem a bit further away. She's going to be really busy, so I can't expect her to drive over here to see me all the time, however, the train is not cheap and not convenient with my scattered work schedule. I can make it work, but not every week.

We haven't talked about what we're going to do, or even if we're going to try a long distance thing. Both of us have decided to put it off until after pixfest, which we've done a pretty good job of pulling off. But as that deadline quickly approaches, I realize I have no idea what I want or need to be okay with this. My only experience with a relationship with distance was in my previous relationship, which was tumultuous for a myriad of reasons, and for a few months my partner was away, somewhat in hiding from their shitty family. In that time, our relationship was going south anyway, and although we kept in touch and I wrote cute letters and visited, there was no saving what wasn't there anymore. This time my relationship is still going superbly, so I have no idea what's going to happen.

I really think my partner will want to try and continue this, and I'd like to too. But we're also both so reasonable and realistic, and this shit can be really grating. She and I have a lot to do, and making time for travel just may not be a possibility, which will really change our otherwise excellent communication.


Has anyone had any good experiences with this? Made it work at all? Or shitty ones? Or advice?

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yeah also the fact that it's google chat

I guess if we're going to talk meaning of tattoos, the reason I have a friend's name across my toes is because he's a long time friend I grew up with, who died in a moped accident about 6 years ago, when he was 18. Jay was one of the best people I've ever ever met, funny and compassionate, just one of those bright bright light kind of people. Someone you knew would go on to do great things. I bought a moped, and he came into town to ride with me. He gave me a helmet, and about two weeks after that he came into town and we rode around again. He got into an accident that night on his way home, no helmet. It's hard to not feel responsible, and though I've learned to cope with it, it still eats away at me sometimes.

I have his hair sewn into my dread as well. I keep him around so I don't forget to be at least half as awesome as he was going to be. It's been 6 years but I still miss him dearly. While I was on tour I ran into someone I'd never met who had dreads, only to find out she went to high school with him, and got dreads after he did. She's going to send me some of his old writing I don't have. Weird world.

+ I went on tour and it was great!
- I got sick and super lost my voice
+ Not having a voice was pretty funny for a few days.
-/+ Got pulled over in the homestretch for driving too slowly, and our guitarist had to tell the officers that our band name is Anybody But The Cops. In hindsight, that's really great.

I have a name stick n poked across my toes and that is the only tattoo I have. I will refrain from sharing a bad photo of what that looks like.

Definitely going.

Just hanging out on the porch with Blastoise



Just enjoying summer with my partner Sofia.

This is weird. Every bit of it.

Anyway now I no longer have to log in with my terrific boner either.