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my long-term life plan is: hang out with the baby Jonas

Ha! You need to meet him!

how do i find you??

I think CBT would be really helpful for me and I wish there was a low cost option near here. I am planning to start the mindfulness based stress reduction program July 1, though,  and see how it goes

Ooh, thanks! Just installed duolingo.

Alex, you're the best.
Consulting,  for the group I work with, means a lot of stuff. Sometimes it means we plan and facilitate retreats for board members, sometimes it means we help create a curriculum on a certain topic (we are working on one on community engagement and advocacy! ) if an organization has a grant to do that, sometimes it means going through an organization's financials and making recommendations, and sometimes it means doing coaching on things like leadership on an individual level. I get to do a lot of meeting scheduling, note taking, power point making, and research. Sometimes I get to do things like make play lists for retreats or sit around and chat with people who worked with Cesar Chavez. I like it a lot.

And yeah, I think your theory about imposter syndrome makes sense. I also know it is really common for women and people of color, so the pessimist in me thinks it could be partly because I am doing the role I am "supposed to" according to those things. And I do feel it in some ways, more generally. Like, I feel it a little in my moms group or when I am talking to other people I know who have kids. I still have imposter syndrome as A parent, but I am completely confident as MY kid's parent, if that makes sense. Like, I am not an expert at being a parent as like...a THING, but I am an expert in my kid, haha.

Also, I just realized...it is pretty fucked up to just assume this person is cis when you don't know him at all

I don't know if that is fair. I don't think anybody said they don't care what other people want to be referred to as, just that they don't care how others refer to them. That seems legitimate to me. Pronouns are important to some people and not as big a deal to others. I understand that being referred to by the wrong pronoun can be very hurtful if you are trans and I think people can respect that and still not be as rigid about what they go by. Honestly,  I think it is a good sign for the breaking down of the gender binary, and a sign that it is not some awful thing to be a woman when cis men aren't offendedd by being called "she"

It's in the This American Life episode about good guys and is worth listening to!

Get a rice cooker. We were pretty good at making rice without one but we still got one even though I was skeptical.  It makes it easier and you can time it and keep it warm. We use it seriously like 3 or more times a week. We do rarely use our slow cooker but it is mostly because jer doesn't really like a lot of the kind of stuff you can make in it. I would use it more if I was just cooking for me. If you like soups, stews, chilis, or like the "bowls" they do at veggie restaurants,  you would probably use it a lot more. It is nice to be able to chop everything up when you have a chance during the day and just have it ready at dinner.

Kevin

is there any significance to your name changing to "momitsNOWme" or is that a typo

they had a kid! whatta way to find out.

is there any significance to your name changing to "momitsNOWme" or is that a typo

they had a kid! whatta way to find out.

Haha yep! Haven't looked at my Facebook profile in a while, I guess!

Have you heard the Mike Birbiglia piece about the pretty woman on the bus? 

Currently I am mostly being a mom. I'm also working part time, mostly from home, with a company that does consulting, mostly with nonprofits. I'm working slowly through a training to be a doula.

I'm less sure about career stuff than I used to be. I wanted to be a professor and still would love to, but it is so hard to make that happen as a career now without spending 5 years in Kansas or something, which I don't want to do. My last job, I got to do some higher ed administration stuff with teaching as a part of it, and I thought I would do that path, but I got kind of disillusioned with it.

Sad, because I really like the teaching itself...like, I would come out of class with this high feeling like it is what I'm meant to do.

But I like the consulting and think if I moved up in the company I could really like it...there are aspects of it that are like what I enjoyed about teaching. I think the doula stuff is a good combination of my interest in gender issues, politics, and teaching, too. If I follow that path, I am interested in getting into the childbirth education side of things, too..particularly one that focuses on mindfulness.

Maybe I will actually get around to editing and submitting my novel, too, haha.

But yeah, as cheesy as it sounds, in spite of being less sure of career stuff, I feel more "arrived" than I have before. I know some people might roll their eyes, but being a mom to my baby is exactly what I'm supposed to do. I have less imposter syndrome with it than I have ever had with anything and it makes me really happy.

That's what i try to do, haha, but it never looks like that!

I had a long distance deal going with my ex for several months before she moved to Pgh to live with me.  Things were pretty great long distance, but once she moved here, things went south quick.  That said, long distance sucked, mostly because I hate driving long distances (4 hours) and it was always after work and mostly during a bad winter.  Damn near died in WV.

Do I know you?

It's certainly possible.

I grew up in WV and have a lot of friends there and in Pittsburgh. I'm Becca

I really like the xxx vitamin water. I wonder if it tastes different. I haven't had it in a while.

I had a long distance deal going with my ex for several months before she moved to Pgh to live with me.  Things were pretty great long distance, but once she moved here, things went south quick.  That said, long distance sucked, mostly because I hate driving long distances (4 hours) and it was always after work and mostly during a bad winter.  Damn near died in WV.

Do I know you?

lindsey, can you do a video tutorial on how to get your hair into that perfect bun please?

me too!

Thanks! Czech is pretty fun but hard. I studied it in Prague for about 6 weeks and didn't get very far.

I was conversational in Spanish for awhile, but lost it when I took up German. I was actually relatively fluent in German but am super out of practice. I would like to relearn Spanish. Yes, kids' books help!

How "crime"y does it need to be? Like..are you looking for law and order kinds of things or can the criminal activity be happening without people talking so much about the criminality of it?  Does that make sense?

Oh man, I so want to do this.

There was a story on npr about how we are programmed to eat a whole "unit" of whatever it is we are eating, no matter how big or small that unit is. So if you give us a giant bag of chips we will try to eat it, even if we would have been happy with the amount of chips in a smaller bag.

Er.